Women love to manipulate. You read correctly. And some like to play games even if they do not recognize it. It is just something about them; maybe it is the way they are wired or hormones. Men also play games but sometimes you need a little information to one-up her. She shouldn’t hold all the cards in the relationship. There should be a skillful balance. But sometimes, it is good to have a little ammunition up your sleeve to help you out. So why do you need to continue reading this article?

You are reading because you want her to miss you. You want her to miss you so she could think about you. If she thinks about you all the time, chances are that she will want you. If she wants you, it is difficult for her to want to be with anyone else. Being apart from you will drive her insane. Getting her to miss you is a good tactic especially if she is playing hard to get or wants you to work for it. Working for it is not a bad idea too. It shows her that you think she’s worth the effort.

15. Make Her Suffer

Okay, it sounds really bad but have you ever heard the expression “Nice guys finish last?” In terms of relationships, nice guys get hurt and the woman chooses the douche. So, theorists have actually proven that some women prefer the bad boy type. Some women have the desire to change men. She thinks the bad boy is sexy and that she would have a better time with him. You can easily create that illusion by being cold, selfish and making her think that you are out of her league. She will text and you can reply a few days later. Make her wait, make her think about you. But you should only do this bad boy treatment after you have shown her a good time so that she would feel more of a loss when you take longer to reply. If played poorly, this can backfire.

14. Disarm Her

A good but weird way to get her to miss you is to disarm her. You disarm her by saying something she least expects or by taking her out of her comfort zone. Sometimes she may throw you a bone, hoping to start a fight but rather than chewing on it, agree with her and tell her okay. She may think that you’re being more agreeable but you are actually not. It is using reverse psychology to throw her off her game. If she has walls up, and you disarm her, she is probably going to go home and try to figure you out. She is going to wonder why you didn’t react the way she expected you to. She is going to have to take time to regroup and re-strategize. There is no guarantee that she is going to miss you but she is definitely going to be thinking about you.

13. Reverse Chivalry

Some women claim to be independent but chivalry can melt the coldest of hearts. If you go out, she’s either expecting you to pay or that the bill is split. This method is similar to disarming her because you’re going to ask her to pay instead. You’re still going to open the doors for her and pull out her seat but you are just going to ask her to pay or buy you a drink instead of you doing it. She would have thought that she had you figured out but then you throw her this curveball. She would either insist that you pay the bill or be stunned silent. You’re going to come across as a bad boy, a total douche but when she goes home, she’s going to call her girlfriends and tell them. You are going to be on her mind. You can send her a text to say that you had a good time or invite her out again. How’s that for creating a unique experience?

12. Fractionation

For all the math haters, in case you were wondering, it doesn’t really involve mathematics. Fractionation is a way to emotionally manipulate her. It may seem hard but you have to take your girl on an emotional rollercoaster. Cause her to experience different feelings and emotions; both positive and negative. It is not advised that you use these techniques unless your intentions are genuine. It is generally hard to succeed at it but it can be rewarding. You can further research the psychological practice but the premise is that if you create cycles of pleasure and pain or even sadness and happiness that an emotional attachment will be created. That is why some girls get into relationships with guys so quickly and then end up married and pregnant.

11. Enslavement

Physically enslaving someone is illegal. However, this proposed ‘enslavement’ is not as bad as it seems. You are going to enslave her with a unique experience. Taking her out to dinner and the movies is a good idea but they are also boring and things she can do alone, with girlfriends or with another guy. Give her an experience that she can remember you by. If you create a unique experience and you have a fallout with her, it is easy to just bring up the memory as a reminder to her of the good time you had together and it makes your job of getting her back easier. But be unique with the experience and you can even make it something she has never done before or something she has always wanted to try but just never got around to it.

10. Limit Conversation

You are probably thinking that this is a terrible idea. Why would you limit conversation if you had a really good time with her before? You’re creating distance, but only do if after you are sure that she had a good time with you. If you text and call too regularly, she is not going to miss you as you are always available to her and seem to be at her disposal. If she texts you, don’t reply immediately. A few hours later is a good threshold but you don’t want to overdo it as she may have a ‘filler’ guy if she thinks you’re not serious. It may sting her pride but when you take her out again, make sure she has a good time and make sure that she understands that you are busy.

9. Social Media

Never underestimate the power of social media in manipulating her to miss you. When you are out with your friends, it is a good idea to take pictures of you having a good time without her. It doesn’t mean that you should take pictures of other women to make her jealous. Just take pictures in a group. It will make her miss you and wish that she had been a part of your day and your life. So use Twitter, Instagram and Facebook; fill her feeds and make sure she sees your pictures. Also put a nice caption. She will long to spend some time with you and may even use the opportunity to text you. Though she may not comment on the picture but she will longingly like it and wish she was in it.

8. Don’t Go to All Her Events

If she invites you to hang out with her, it means that she wants to spend time with you. If your goal is really for her to miss you, then you’re not going to jump to go to every event that she invites you to. Exercise some restraint and say no to a few. Let her know that you have a life that does not revolve around her. You can go to a few of her events because it would be rude not to do so, but  just to attempt to get her to miss you. If you don’t go to any, she will eventually stop asking you and think you’re not interested. Be sure to go to a few and for the ones that you do not go to, let her know you already had something planned. She would wonder who your plans are with. Keep them on their toes.

7. Something Personal

One of the best things you can do to get her to miss you is to give her something personal. It seems simple but some guys have things that they idolize. Girls especially love a guy’s hoodies and their boyfriend’s T-shirts, especially if it smells like him. You’re not going to give her that. It is way too easy and well you can always replace a T-shirt or a hoodie. It may make you miss her more because you will imagine her sleeping in your hoodie. If you have a lucky chain or an item that is sentimental you can leave it with her especially if you’re going out of town, if she has an exam or some big event that she needs to have some luck. When she sees the item, she is automatically going to think about you and maybe smile.

6. Don’t Check in

Girls appreciate check-ins. They like to know what their man is doing all the time. You are not going to give her the benefit of you checking in and you’re not going to make a big deal when she doesn’t do the same. Yea, you may worry but if you get yourself an introvert, chances are that she is home and watching television or reading. However, if you get an extrovert or a girl who is really social, you may be wondering what she’s doing and who she is with. If you’re not checking in, don’t expect her to. She’s going to be wondering how your day is going. If you had any problems and she’s going to worry to the point that she’ll just call to say hi but she’s really missing you and wants to hear your voice.

5. Go Slow

“Slow and steady wins the race.” This statement is true. Going slow creates a slow burn and an increased desire. Spend a lot of time with others rather than being alone together in a confined space. Even if you have to spend time together, do it in a public space. She’s going to want you to make the first move, unless she makes it first. But you should turn down her advances; tell her you want to wait a little bit. It is going to drive her insane. You may be insane too especially if you know she wants to put out. Exercise a little restraint and you will be surprised. She will miss you, and probably invite you out more often so you could “speed up” the dating process so you can both move on to other things.

4. Night Duties

Night duties don’t mean you’re guarding her. You are going to make sure that you are the last thought she has when she goes to bed at night and when she wakes up in the morning. If you decided to call, don’t stay on the phone for too long, even if she tries to get a conversation out of you and don’t make a habit of calling too often because she would anticipate it. Call or text her randomly at night, when she’s more relaxed and winding down. You can even text when you know she’s asleep so she would wake up to a message from you. On the nights that you don’t text, she will wonder why you didn’t. She will want to know what you were doing and she will miss the conversation she has with you before bed and hope that she wakes up to a text from you.

3. Be Yourself

All these tips are good, but a good girl truly appreciates a man who shows her himself. If your aim is a long-term relationship, then you should want her to see who you really are. If you are a good guy, and genuinely interested in her without being too creepy, she’s just going to miss you whenever you’re not together without the game playing strategies. Even talking on the phone will present a challenge to her as she will just long to be in your presence. It’s not about being bored or not having anything to do. Those are the best times. You don’t have to go out but just spend a quiet day together.

2. Limit Outings

By limiting outings, don’t go out too often. But when you do go out with her, make sure she has a really good time so when you’re not hanging out, she can crave spending time with you. Spending time with a person is a good way to get to know them. Show her your best sides, especially if your friends think you’re funny.

This is again creating distance. If you are always around, she is not going to experience your absence. You can use the busy excuse. This ties back to reverse chivalry as well; she will crave spending time with you especially when she goes out and see other couples hanging out. She may even put ego and pride aside and ask you to hang out with her. When this happens, you know she misses you.

1. Be Ambiguous

Girls love guys that are full of mystery. When you now meet; don’t tell her everything about you. Keep some things to yourself. There is a difference between being ambiguous and being secretive. Do not confuse the two. Girls like a guy that is full of mystery. These are the guys that they just cannot figure out. She does not know your intention or she thinks she does but then you do something that confuses her. When you are vague, her mind works overtime to figure you out. These types of guys are the ones that keep her up at night and occupy a lot of her thought space. Don’t be ambiguous for too long because it can become boring depending on the type of girl and she needs to know that you want her.