It’s extremely hard for women or men to admit that they like or want someone from the opposite sex, and worst of all on the first date. It’s equally hard for most men to know if a girl wants them, considering the subtle and inconsistent signs they get from women, which can be downright confusing. A woman will randomly leave certain signs that she wants to be more than friends, and at times the signs might just mean you are getting friend-zoned!

Women will hint at their desires in the form of signs and expect you to figure out for yourself that they want to be more than just friends, or better yet, they want you to take them home. Naturally, women are shy when it comes to sexual matters, and will not easily express their feelings. Therefore a guy needs to be extra keen if they are thinking of taking a girl home after a date. Many a guy has face-palmed himself after getting home and realizing the offer for ‘coffee upstairs’ that they declined was never actually about coffee. In case you get the nagging feeling that her demeanor might be hiding the fact that she wants you, keep an eye out for these clues. Here are 15 Signs She Wants Some (But You’re Just Not Getting It).

15. She tells you she wants the D

Well, this happens to only a handful of men, the really lucky ones. And for most of us, it normally feels like you have some sort of voodoo charm, and the concept usually feels a bit out of your mental understanding. I mean, the general assumption is that girls never give it up easy! If a girl comes up to you and tells you she wants to go home, well, you don’t need to overthink it. She has demystified everything on the spot. Leave your boys and call a cab ASAP! One way to lose this chance is if you try to verify with her if you’re indeed getting laid, nothing kills a buzz faster than asking for sex!

14. She asks you if you Live Alone

Well, this is the type of question that would light up any guys face (unless of course, couch potato that you are, you still live in your grandma’s house). It’s probably the type of questions that most men don’t expect to be asked but hope for anyway. If she asks you this question, what she really is asking is whether you have a roommate or live with your mom and whether there is any chance of the two of you being alone. So why would she need privacy? To hear about your childhood memories? Hell no! She wants it bad, and regardless of who you live with, boy you better answer a firm NO! In case you live with your boys, the sock-on-doorknob will have to do this time!

13. The Lip Language

Disclaimer; you need to be very sure about this fact. Different smiles have different meanings. But there is the seductive smile. There is that husky laugh. Now don’t get me wrong, if she’s loudly and out-rightly laughing at you, chances are you look hideous, have a funny face, or are acting dumb. But in case she constantly smiles at you ‘suggestively’, then it’s a positive sign that she has a good feeling about you and is having loads of fun with you. Assuming you don’t take the hint, she might take it a step further; lick her lips. Assuming you are a dummy who still doesn’t get it, she will bite her lips. Now if you don’t grab your chance, nothing can be done to help you.

12. She picks specific hangout places for the two of you

There is literally no end to the places you guys could hang out. There are restaurants, clubs, concerts and the likes. However, if she’s constantly picking out locations that afford you privacy, that’s your go-ahead to try something! She could pick out bars with dark booths, private beaches, or restaurants in which you are the only customers. She’s basically looking for spaces where you don’t have to ‘be a gentleman’ around her. If you miss this cue, there’s no helping you! If she doesn’t suggest any of these hang out spots herself, go ahead and make the first move and observe her reaction. If she says yes, then you have one foot through the door.

11. She gets Physical with you

We all liked this when we were in elementary school, the thought of getting to second base with your girl crush was the ultimate story for your friends, and second base in elementary school just meant she touched your hair or held your hand during practical lessons. If a girl is stroking your arm or touching your neck, then this, my dear friends is what is called flirting. Believe it or not, she might not even be aware of the message she is projecting, but her body responds to her feelings. This is a simple way of showing that she likes you; try mimicking her movements and see her reactions.

10. Is she texting you at night?

One thing you need to understand about women is that they love their beauty sleep more than anything. But, in the rare circumstance that she is texting you at midnight, then buddy, she is thinking of you in a totally different context. The sexual context, to be specific. Don’t get too over excited and start sexting her yet, it’s only wise to let her lead this show at her pace. There is no way in hell a woman will text you at midnight if she isn’t into you, not unless she needs a big favour. The consistency of the texts is the key word here.

9. She runs her hand through her hair during dates

Well, this ought to even excite the biggest doubting Thomas on the planet. This is definitely a sure sign that a girl digs you. One of the most common universal signs that a girl likes you is if she flips or plays with her hair when she is around a guy. It’s no wonder that women spend so much time, effort, and money on their hair. Hair twirling has long been considered the benchmark of flirting. Women playing with their hair is a way of subconsciously exposing their necks, and it’s a universal sign that they want the guy to show some skin too. Humans are WEIRD!

8. The Triangular gaze test

This is one way of finding out. Rather than use the old pounce-on-her tactic and hope it works, try the triangular gaze. For those of you who don’t know what this is, we will let you in on this secret just this once. This is a form of body language that non-verbally lets a girl know you want to engage in a kissing session with her. It involves alternating between staring deeply at her eyes and her lips. Assuming she’s not attracted to you, she will become uneasy, or simply not notice. In case she does want more from you, she will mirror this gaze. Soon as she looks at your lips, go for it! The best scenario ever would be if she was the one who initiated the triangular gaze!

7. She doesn’t ask the girlfriend question

Well, this is one of the classics. Girls have used this for centuries. If a girl cunningly drops the “Your girlfriend must love your eye, car, vibe etc.” type of comment, then it’s not because she cares so much about her. This is part of her subtle investigative technique to find out if you have a girl (quite lame though, because it gives her off immediately). However, if a girl constantly hangs out with you, doesn’t object to kissing you, yet never asks if you have a girl, then she’s clearly not looking for a relationship. Which leaves only one other option; she’s only here for the physical.

6. She talks about sex when with you

Whoa!! This has to be the easiest sign to figure out, next to coming out and just asking you for sex. And if you are the smart kinda guy, then you need to act swift. Unless she’s a sex writer trying to get insight for her next column (and really, what are the odds), she really wouldn’t be talking about sex with you. So the only explanation is that she wants some serious D. Women will never talk about sex with men they are not interested in unless of course, you are her gay best friend in which case, you have no business reading this article!

5. Pay Attention To Her Compliments

If a woman is complimenting you for your chivalrous behavior, she might be looking for a serious thing. However, if she compliments you on the way you look, your hairstyle, eyes, cologne or muscles, then she is definitely checking you out. If she wasn’t, then she wouldn’t notice these things about you. While this might not entirely mean you have it in the bag yet, it’s a good sign she wants some. Therefore, next time you go out to the club and a girl compliments you, she’s not just looking to compliment every guy that she meets. She’s probably into to you, so take a hint!

4. She goes French!

Assuming you’ve taken her out for dinner. You’ve had a good time, she’s shown all the signs that she’s into you, but you don’t want to risk ruining everything by misreading her intentions. When you lean over to give her a quick goodnight peck, if she kisses with tongue on a first date, then she is definitely open for more! A girl that isn’t into you will turn her head to the side and offer her cheek, as a way of deflecting your peck from her lips! So if her lips are all over yours, keep going and you won’t be disappointed!

3. Sits beside you, not across from you.

Now, this is super subtle, but whenever you are in a scenario that requires you to sit down, for instance, the two of you are on a train, a restaurant or even your bed, if she chooses to sit across you, then don’t bother dude. Just engage in some appropriate conversation and take your rejected self-home. However, if she chooses to sit next to you, this signifies some level of intimacy between the two of you. She craves contact. You should definitely take charge of the situation, and take it to the next step. Whether this involves cuddling or straight out beginning the making out session, there’s only one way this is ending.

2. Lets you know her parents ain’t home.

A slightly altered (and bolder) version of asking you if you live alone would be to let you know that she has some private space where the two of you could hang out uninterrupted. Assuming she stays with her parents or a roommate, she would subtly sometimes let you know outright that there’s gonna be private space for a given amount of time. No girl lets you know she’s home alone because she wants to show you her shoe collection come on! Similarly, if she lives alone, she might ask to hang out indoors instead of going out. A girl that lets you inside her house when there is an alternative definitely wants you inside some other areas as well!

1. She invites you in after the night out.

For Pete’s sake, if you do not get this hint after all the movies that capitalized on the ‘saying goodbye outside her door after dinner’ scene, you need to give up any hope of ever getting laid. The ‘end of date’ test is foolproof; if she is in a hurry to head inside or doesn’t ask you to come in for a while, she really doesn’t want anything more. One mistake, in this case, would be to invite yourself. The worst mistake though would be to knock on her door after she already went in. Dude, just let it go. However, if she asks you in for a nightcap, you’re on your way! Sometimes a nightcap really is just a nightcap, so don’t go jumping on her the moment you get inside the house. Let her initiate the next move. If she so much as moves in to kiss you, you’re in!